HOW TO FIGHT
Published:
Psychology Today; psychologytoday.com
Level of Difficulty:*
BEFORE YOU READ
1.
How
regularly do you get into arguments with people?
2.
When
did you last have a serious argument and what was it about?
3.
Did
you reach an agreement on that occasion or not?
4.
If
you didn’t reach an agreement, what do you think the reason was?
5.
Would
things have been different if you had acted differently?
QUESTIONS
1.
At
the end of line three, the writer says “until you admit it”. What does it refer
to?
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2.
What
does the word “dumb” in line four mean? Answer in your own words.
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3.
What
does the word “escalate” in line seven mean? Answer in your own words.
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4.
What
does the word “relentlessly” in line nine mean? Answer in your own words.
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5.
In
line ten, the writer says “It’s mindless, it’s not going to work and you know
it”. Why is it not going to work?
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6.
In
line eleven, the writer says “During arguments that feeling can get out of
control”. What is the feeling that gets out of control?
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7.
A.
Read the section on good arguments and stupid arguments. What are the three
basic features of stupid arguments?
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B.
What characteristic do good arguments have that stupid ones don’t?
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8. A. What are the warning signs in an
argument that you must look out for?
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B. Why is winning so very important
in stupid arguments?
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9. In line forty two, what does “it”
refer to in the phrase “tune it out”?
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10. What is the best result of an
argument?
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11. Why can’t you resolve a conflict by
continuing to argue?
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12. In line fifty, what does “that” refer
to in the phrase “that’s normal”?
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OPTIONAL FREE WRITING
Look at the ways
in which you can prevent an argument spiraling out of control. Are there any
others you would add? After writing them down and discussing them with your
classmates, write a paragraph on the topic.
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