By: Kathleen McGowan
Published: Psychology Today; psychologytoday.com
KEY
1.
That
“I am right and you are wrong”.
2.
Stupid.
3.
Becomes
much worse.
4.
Without
giving up.
5.
Because
both sides feel it is absolutely unacceptable for the other side to disagree.
6.
The
basic need that we all have to be close to and understood by the people we love
most.
7.
A.
Stupid arguments take the shape of loops; the subject of the argument leaps…..;
wining the argument becomes…/ B. The argument has a beginning and an end.
8.
A.
The feeling that you absolutely must get your partner to see it your way/ the
feeling that you can’t shut up, can’t move on and can’t leave it. B. Because
people have an irrational but powerful fear of being alone- of being
misunderstood by people they count on most.
9.
Retort
( five star reference at this stage)
10. That it ends.
11. Conciliation doesn’t happen when two people are face
to face. It happens in your head hours or days after the fight.
12. The fact that many arguments never do get settled.
OPTIONAL FREE WRITING
Remember to
initiate a discussion before students start to write. Ask them for their own
contributions too. They might come up with the following ideas:
-
If
you can’t control yourself, leave the room.
-
Look
beyond the argument at the hidden motives of your opponent; those motives may
have nothing to do with you (empathy, sympathy).
SUGGESTED TOPIC SENTENCE: There are various ways in which arguments can be
prevented from spiraling out of control.
SUGGESTED CONCLUDING STATEMENT: Following these pieces of advice will prevent
damaging, hurtful arguments.
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