HOW ONLINE ROMANCE IS THREATENING MONOGAMY
By: Dan Slater;
Published: 10 January 2013; The Atlantic
Magazine; http://www.theatlantic.com Alternatively, just google the title and the
author’s name.
Level of Difficulty: ***
BEFORE YOU READ
1. What are some
pros and cons to online dating? https://monkeysee.com/what-are-some-pros-and-cons-to-online-dating/
Pros and cons of online dating https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKL0GM4-VGY
The Beautiful Truth About Online Dating | Arum Kang &
Dawoon Kang | TEDxUCDavisSF
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mRWPqwyukGY
QUESTIONS
1.
What
major difference did Jacob observe between big cities and smaller towns? Big
cities provided …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
2.
What
aspect of the way Jacob lived was a problem with his girl friends?
3.
What
two mistakes caused his girl friend in Portland to leave him?
4.
Aside
from being younger, more beautiful and sharing various hobbies with Jacob, in what additional way was Rachel
different from previous girl friends?
5.
Jacob
wasn’t unduly put out when Rachel broke up with him because ……………………………..
(There are two answers; find both)
6.
In
what way did meeting Rachel online change his attitude to the relationship?
7.
What
is the function of the paragraph beginning “The positive aspects of online
dating are clear…” and where else could you have this paragraph?
8.
What
prediction has been made about the future of marriage?
9.
What
is the reason for the above prediction?
10.
What
condition would have led Blatt to get married and start a family?
11.
What
aspect of modern life will have a negative effect on commitment according to
Niccolo Formai? There are two possible answers; find them both.
12.
According
to Noel Bidermann, what attitude of 20th century man will negatively
impact certain societal values we have so far held dear?
13.
Online
dating sites have a vested interest in opposing commitment because………………………..
14.
How
do the same websites try to entice previous users back to the site?
15.
How
does Alex Mehr feel about the effects of online dating that came up in the
study? What does he attribute commitment or the lack of it to?
16.
According
to Schwartz, what is the main disadvantage of too many choices?
17.
Which
of the three basic components of commitment will not be affected by online
dating?
18.
What
immediate conclusion can we draw from the chocolate example? What is the reason
for this conclusion? There are two answers to the latter question; find both.
19.
According
to Eli Finkel, increasing divorce rates are sometimes good in that …………………………,
they can also be harmful for……………………………………………………………………………………………..
20.
Gilbert
Fiebleman doesn’t only blame internet dating for the attitude to commitment, he
also blames …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
21.
Read
the rest of Jacob’s story. What, in your view, is wrong with the way he lives?
Discuss.
22.
For
what three reasons do relationships that start online move quickly?
23.
The
major disadvantages of a life style like Jacob’s are stated in the conclusion
to the text. State clearly what they are. Then compare the answer to your
answer to question 21.
WRITING TASK
Write an essay discussing the
effects of online dating. Make use of the text and notes you make on any other
research you do. The effects – as stated in the text – are as follows but you
are welcome to add any others you discover. Remember also that the effects
below are presented in a haphazard list; you will need to organize them into
groups to break up your development.
1.
Internet
dating has made people more disposable
2.
Internet
dating may be partly responsible for the rise in the divorce rates
3.
Low
quality, unhappy and unsatisfying marriages are being destroyed as people drift
to internet dating sites.
4.
Our
pickiness will increase
5.
The
realization that there is no need to settle for a mediocre relationship
6.
Internet
dating removes barriers to meeting
7.
Men
may pursue more short term mates
A MILLION FIRST DATES KEY AND TEACHER’S NOTES
This is another highly topical issue yet it may look a little trivial at
first glance; it is far from being so in fact. The text analyses the long term
individual and social consequences of this new trend and draws some disturbing
conclusions. The whole activity is bound to lead itself to discussion. There is
a writing task as well which should be covered immediately after the text.
1.
Readymade
social scenes
2.
His
lifestyle which emphasized watching sports and going to concerts and bars.
3.
The
fact that he made plans by negotiation and the fact that he was passive in
arguments.
4.
She
came from a blue collar military background and she placed high value on things
he didn’t think much about: a solid credit score, a 40 hour work week.
5.
Having
met Rachel so easily online he felt confident that he could always meet someone
else; because he’d gone from someone … to being much more relaxed and
comfortable about it.
6.
If
he’d met Rachel off line and if he’d never done any online dating, he would
have married her; OR he would have overlooked everything else and done whatever
it took to make things work.
7.
It
is the main idea; the thesis; what the text is all about. It could have been
the first paragraph before the examples but this is better as this is an
article not an academic paper. The example captures the readers’ attention.
8.
An
overall decrease of commitment; OR marriage will become obsolete.
9.
Matching
people up with great people is getting very (so) efficient.
10.
Mate
scarcity. Living in Iowa is nonsensical because then the implication is that
this is a problem we only see in Iowa and nowhere else, which would be wrong
according to the rest of the text.
11.
The
expectation of constant flow; over time you’ll expect constant flow; OR the
goal to make everything faster.
12.
The
security and confidence in our ability to find someone else, usually someone
better.
13.
A
permanently paired off dater means lost revenue.
14.
Lapsed
users receive notifications informing them that wonderful people are browsing
their profiles and are eager to chat.
15.
He
disagrees with the prevailing view; to personality
16.
Thinking
about the attractions of some of the options detracts from the pleasure derived
from the chosen one
17.
The
investment one has put into the relationship
18.
People
are less satisfied when choosing from a larger group; the mere fact of having
chosen from such a large set of options can lead to doubts about whether the
choice was the right one; they are liable to become cognitively overwhelmed.
19.
Fewer
people feel like they are stuck in relationships; children or even society as a
whole.
20.
The
internet
21.
Open
ended
22.
Familiarity
23.
Is established during the massaging process ;
if a woman is on a dating site there is a good chance she wants to connect; the
sense of urgency.
24.
The
last paragraph of the text. This paragraph also represents the writer’s view.
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