“We need to catch up
soon”
By: Julie Beck
Published: The
Atlantic, http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/10/how-friendships-change-over-time-in-adulthood/411466/
Level of difficulty:
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LISTEN TO THE SONGS
·
The Friendship Song -
"Friends are Quiet Angels"
·
Gift Of A Friend - Demi Lovato ( Lyrics
)
BEFORE YOU READ
·
Access the text and scroll down. Watch the short
film (6:38 min) about lifelong friendships forged while playing hokey.
QUESTIONS
1. What
makes friendship truly different from all similar relationships is the fact
that…………
2. Regardless
of age everyone wants a friend to be ………………………………………………………….
3. Individuals
have to make more of an effort to make time for their friends in adulthood
because:
·
They have more responsibilities
·
They live far away
·
They have different priorities
·
All of the above
·
None of the above
·
Other: please specify
4. What
makes friendship such a special relationship is the involvement of free speech/
choice / time / location
5. What
does “that” refer to in the phrase “Their friendships help them do that”?
6. What
makes friendships formed in early adulthood more lasting is the fact that
………………….
7. What
does “this” refer to in the phrase “College is an environment that facilitates
this”?
8. The
simple reason why young adults can devote more time to the friends is the
relative lack of…………………………………………………………………..
9. There
is a negative / positive correlation between the age of the young person and
…………….of their friendships
10. Read
the example Rawlins provides. What conclusion can we draw from this example?
11. The
three factors that take precedence in the life of adults to the detriment of
friendship are ………………………,, ……………………..and……………………
12. The
above is ironic because in adulthood,………………………………
13. Although
people wish friends to be there for them and vice versa, they can’t in modern
life due to practical considerations such as…………………….and personal problems such
as ………………………
14. Which
of the types of people described in the text with relation to forming
friendships has the best of both worlds?
15. Why
did the people in Lang’s study “struggle”?
16. What
change in world view later in life brings friends together?
17. Lifelong
friendships are possible provided people
·
Make the effort
·
Go the extra mile
·
Invest in them
·
All of the above
·
None of the above
18. What
does “this sort of shared language refer to?
19. Name
three of the four main levels of maintaining a relationship?
20. In which of the three levels you listed above
is social media helpful?
21. Why
is social media not helpful with the third level?
22. Someone
you went to school with 30 years ago and were very close to for years until
your family moved abroad when you were 18 is a …………………………..friend.
23. Imagine
you met your best friend from secondary school twenty years later and start
seeing each other. In what way would your friendship with this person be
different? It would be……………………………………………………
24. Read
the conclusion to the text carefully. In this section, the writer…………………….to
form the conclusion
WRITING TASK
Use
all the information you have gleaned to write an essay about how friendship
changes throughout the years. Write an introduction, followed by a three
paragraph development to cover childhood and adolescence, young adulthood,
adulthood and old age. Write a brief restatement as a conclusion.
HOW FRIENDSHIPS
CHANGE IN ADULTHOOD KEY AND TEACHERS NOTES
This is a wonderful
text which should appeal to everyone and lead to a good writing task. Due to the way the text has been written, focus has been on paraphrasing, drawing conclusions, summarizing, identifying
references and scanning in the questions.
1. They lack a formal structure
2. Somebody
to talk to, someone to depend on and someone to enjoy
3. The
first and the third
4. Choice
5. Discover
their identity and learn what it means to be intimate
6. People
are usually a little more secure in themselves
7. Socializing
8. Responsibilities
9. Negative,
density
10. The
very mobile and high level transportation and communication technology society
that we have is damaging the social fabric of our lives
11. Jobs,
family and marriage
12. You
don’t have time for the very people who helped you make all these life decisions
13. Circumstances
and bad follow through
14. Acquisitive
people
15. Because
the making friends skill can atrophy
16. The
fact that people begin prioritizing experiences that will make them happiest in
the moment
17. All
of the above
18. Inside
jokes and references
19. Keeping
a relationship alive, keeping a relationship at stable level of closeness,
making it a satisfying relationship,
20. The
first and the second.
21. Because
with social media it is possible to maintain more relationships but shallowly (and
the third level is all about making the friendship a satisfying one)
22. Commemorative
friend
23. A
relationship based on story telling
24. Summarizes
the facts
