Families are the basic unit in society; therefore, the decision to form one is one of the most important changes one can make in one’s life. There are many marriage customs all over the world and they have been changing with time. In the past for example, most marriages were arranged by families and the young people often saw each other for the first time at their wedding. Times are changing however and nowadays, men and women interact openly in social life and in the business world. They meet each other, form friendships and fall in love. Eventually, they may decide to get married. Their decision does, however, need to involve their families as well although the young people should have the last word.
Marriage is a very difficult situation: two people who have grown up in completely different families and have a completely different set of experiences decide to spend the rest of their lives together sharing everything. Marriage, therefore, is not a decision to be taken lightly. The better young people know each other and the more they share, the easier this will be. Therefore, it is essential that they spend sometime getting to know each other and make their own decision concerning marriage. Yet the family should be involved when the young people decide to set up house as they have more experience of life and know their child very well. It has to be accepted that a marriage brings two separate families together; it involves more that the bride and the groom. Therefore, it is much easier if everyone gets along with each other.
In modern day Turkey, which is a transition society, family backgrounds can vary a lot: levels of education, cultural and social background may all be very different. All this makes it much harder for families to get to like each other and get along although the young people like each other. This could be an obstacle to marriage if the families have the final word. The problem can be overcome with mutual understanding, tolerance and good will. After all, it is the personality of a person that is important. So long as people are open minded and understanding, very different families can come together through the marriage of their son and daughter. In short, the family should definitely be involved when a young person decides to get married but they need to remember that in the modern world the young person has the final word.
In conclusion, love conquers all and where there is mutual good will and understanding, nothing needs to come between two people who love each other and wish to get married. Families should remember that their role is to facilitate and not to obstruct. After all if an individual is legally an adult, is old enough to vote, to join the army, to get a driving license and the like, he is old enough to make his own decisions. The gesture made by involving the families is one of respect and doesn’t give families the right to be a hindrance.